An Open Letter to John

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John Milan sitting in a chair looking at a table of art supplies

Dear John,

I wanted to share how grateful I am for you and your life and all that you bring. I could always count on you to be on my side and encourage me to keep going. You were always willing to do the difficult things in hard times and help your family with whatever they needed. You have never complained or felt too big to do the small things no one else wanted to do. Your humility and support show your kind and loving heart.

I’m grateful for our years in marriage together full of beautiful memories and fulfilling adventures. Although it might not have been your first choice, you were always willing to go with me to the ends of the earth. You made me laugh when I wanted to cry and cheered me up whenever I felt down.

You were devoted to your children every single day, lovingly caring for them, and always showing up 100%. You cuddled them, played with them, and were everyone’s favorite dad on the street. I appreciate your dedication and unwavering active love you brought as a parent.

John sitting at a table with his three young girls

Our years of collaborating in art have meant the world to me, and I am grateful for the deep, profound, quiet moments of discovery and breakthrough we experienced together. You are an incredible artist, and your lovely soul shines through in every brushstroke or elegant line you create.

I’m thankful for the years we excelled as artists together and were able to see what we created go all over the world. I believe what we had was rare and precious and will always stand out as a profound chapter in my life, of healing and transformation.

John turns and smiles at the camera while painting a horse

As this chapter together closes and we move forward into the unknown apart, my heart is full of gratitude and also great anticipation of new levels of fulfillment and purpose for each of us. Although our marriage is ending, you will always be family to me, and as your friend and huge supporter and cheerleader, I will delight in watching you thrive and grow and become your very best self, becoming all that God intended for you.

I know that your greatest works of art are still in front of you, and your best days are just ahead. You are a kind and loving soul, and so many find comfort and acceptance in your presence. Thank you for who you are and all that you shared with me.

Love you,


92 comments


  • Shay

    What a beautiful letter. It’s nice to see people behave like adults and honor the love they had when they go their separate ways.

    I wish you both love and happiness.

    Elli, it has been a pleasure to watch you, your confidence, and your business grow through your videos. From your uncertainty speaking in front of the camera in the beginning to growing comfortable and shining like a ROCKSTAR in front of it, you have really come into your own. I can’t wait to see where the next part of your journey takes you. Wishing you love, light, strength, and even more success.


  • Louise Rouse

    Love to both of you x


  • Ladina ( Tina)

    Sending u both the favor of Heaven
    Love u guys! ❤️❤️


  • Janet Roelle

    You have your reasons. They belong to you and those who care about you and respect you will honor that. I just met you, but I know I will be seeing you often. Know that I support you today, tomorrow and the next, and the next. Paint it out-your voice is through the canvas.


  • Debbie Miller

    I wish you both the very best. It’s never an easy decision. It is brave of you both to begin your future path and honor your past together.


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