I Exposed the Truth About Picasso—I Didn't Expect This Reaction

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A portrait of young Pablo Picasso

Pablo Picasso died at 91 on April 8th, 1973—25 days before I was born. He created more than 50,000 pieces of known art and is considered one of the most successful artists of all time. Assemblage, collage, mixed media, and the use of artist crayons are all credited to Picasso as techniques he popularized, co-developed, or helped invent. Clearly Picasso pushed the envelope, challenged artistic boundaries, and opened the door for many artists in the future. He lived a long, prolific life. His net worth in today’s currency would be $1.3 billion.

But he was a jerk. Very few people had nice things to say about his character. His granddaughter wrote a book all about how terrible he was. He was most likely a narcissist, definitely a womanizer, and a violent, non-empathetic, unkind, tortured soul. He used and abused women, often having flings and relationships with underaged girls, and did not keep friends.

Picasso was responsible for numerous broken hearts, devastations, betrayals, and losses. Virtually not one soul remembered him as kind, gracious, longsuffering, patient, generous, or loving. Only self-serving, manipulative, and controlling.

Is all of this collateral damage for whatever boundaries he moved in the arts? Did all of these women suffer for the sake of cubism or oil pastels? Could Picasso have achieved the success he did while still being a good, decent person? Or do only twisted souls have the temperament and audacity to challenge artistic norms? Do only the mentally ill have the license to be a name remembered in history?

The Forbidden Question

A young man looks at Picasso's artwork in a museum

The age-old question is, “Do we separate the man from his art?” Is what we create separate from ourselves or a part of ourselves? Should the character of the artist be considered, or only what they produce? Are we human beings or human doers?

I recently put out a reel facetiously giving Picasso advice—telling him that if he weren’t such a creep, he might have made even better art. I hypothesized that maybe his twisted and somewhat hideous portraits might have still achieved breakthrough in the arts but possibly could have been beautiful instead of so beastly, ill-formed, and cold.

What if the genius gifts of Picasso remained intact? What if his drive and perseverance held, but he was a good loving father, a devoted husband and valiant friend? If he inspired through kindness, generosity, and love, what could his art have looked like?

Many who commented on my reel were horrified that I could dare such a question. They told me I must separate the man from his work. They said only someone who suffered from mental illness and struggled with temper could have the capacity to push the envelope the way that Picasso did. That I was presumptuous for suggesting the contrary. He was a genius, and all geniuses are deranged! It’s the price we must pay for the gifts they leave.

But this is not truth. The man and his work are inseparable. The creation is the extension of the creator. Every utterance is a mirror of the soul. All of our pain and our overcoming are embedded in every brushstroke. Every past wound and small will towards forgiveness is recorded in our work. Our wonderments, our questions, our statements, and our findings are visible in our art. We create from inner need and desire. Our taste and choice are reflections of our life experiences. Our artistic agency is evident in how we lay down paint.

Nothing about our artwork can be separate from our being, our character, our essence.

Art and the Inner Life

A couple looks at Picasso's artwork in a museum

What we create originates from our spirit and filters through our soul. I would even argue that there is no part of what we create that is separate from ourselves. The man and his work are one. This is why our healing and wholeness is so crucial. This is why forgiveness, letting go, and beholding love are vital. This is why creating is so spiritual and transcendent.

If only a deranged and tortured soul can break through the norms and open up new pathways of art, then it is darkness that creates these movements and new modern art. Is this why they are vacant of Beauty? Is this why our architecture and homes have become do drab and dull?

Even more, we should endeavor to create art from a place of humility and openness to the Divine source of beauty. If the creations we want to leave on this earth open portals of freedom, liberty, safety, comfort, peace, joy, and love, we must be the man or woman who esteems such things. We must be people who abide in love, endeavor to reach the valor of forgiveness, and walk in integrity at all costs.

An Artist's Legacy

A palette full of oil paint reflects light from a nearby window

We aren’t going to be perfect—not even close. We will lose our temper, make mistakes, slip back into feeling like a victim, and be short-tempered. But only for moments. This is human. But certainly we can do better than Picasso. We can own our mistakes and make amends. We can admit fault and reach our hearts for reconciliation. We can have short memories when others do us wrong. We can try to see the best in others and operate from faith, not fear.

Our art will be our legacy, but not in the way we’ve been taught to believe. It will not only testify to our talent, innovation, or productivity. It will testify to who we were. To what we loved. To what we forgave or what we refused to heal.

History does not only remember brushstrokes. It remembers the spirit behind them. And while the world may excuse cruelty in the name of genius, brokenness is not required for birthing beauty. Darkness does not get the final say on creativity.

We are not called to be tormented icons. We are called to be whole humans who create from truth, humility, courage, and love. And if our work opens doors, shapes culture, or moves hearts, let it not be because we stayed stuck in a path of darkness, but because we dared to walk in the light.

Share your thoughts in the comments below!


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  • Zil

    Thanks for this information. I agree that the man and the art must be taken together. Too often abhorrent behavior is excused by calling the person and/or their work “genius”. True genius would be working through our frailties and attempting to become better humans. Not perfect – no such thing – but better. I will never look at his art the same way, perhaps I’ll never look at his art again. Art is subjective, definitely, and I’ve never really liked his art, perhaps now I know why. I’m a HSP, and perhaps his ugliness comes through to me in his art. Thank you for shedding some light on this reality


  • Sifra Nokovich

    Hooray for this post!!! Haha. Honestly, the truth of this is so profound and yet, so ignored, by people these days. Artists always have to be eccentric and accepting of everything to be considered good artists these days. Garbage! Art is, indeed, a reflection of the soul and and an artist’s creations are, absolutely, a window to hat soul. Thank you Ms. Ellie, for saying things like they are! I stumbled upon you this morning, looking for some ideas on making art glow, and I just had to have a peek at your site. This blog caught my attention and makes me smile. Thank you for being a real person!
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    Elli Milan Art replied:
    Hi. Welcome so glad we found each! Thank you for reaching out!


  • Victoria

    As a child I went to the Prado Museum in Madrid. The Picasso section showed his mastery from his childhood. There were drawings and oil paintings. His best painting is Guernica, a depiction of the town which was bombed by Nazi Germany to help Franco. Picasso wanted to show the suffering. I saw it. It never left my mind afterwards.
    The Spanish Civil War happened. There was a lot of violence. Many art styles in Europe deal with pain and violence. WW1, the Spanish Civil War and WW2 are just a few historical reasons for the art that was created. There was a genuine need for art as therapy and to show the evil nature of what was happening. Machoism was a big part of Spanish life.
    Hitler hated all the new art styles. He wanted beauty in the classical sense. The art exhibition with degenerate art that Nazi Germany showed had the opposite effect to what was intended.
    I feel that sometimes there is a huge gap between Europe and the US. Art doesn’t need to have a happy ending. It can, and art can be beautiful. It can also show us the darkest of the dark in the human mind.


  • Katie

    Elli,
    You not only a fantastic artist but a fenominal writer. Reading your words has helped me see how important it is to tell my own story. I look forward to doing so.


  • Savita Gilbert

    This resonates with me so much. And applaud the courage it took to write this. It’s time we have more honest dialogue about how history eulogizes people by casting irrelevance to their abject immorality.

    Art is meant to uplift people. Not to cause them misery. It’s art either no purpose then.

    I have personally never really liked Picasso and find his distorted images much like his mind. Never understood it.

    Thank you Ellie.


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