I Exposed the Truth About Picasso—I Didn't Expect This Reaction

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A portrait of young Pablo Picasso

Pablo Picasso died at 91 on April 8th, 1973—25 days before I was born. He created more than 50,000 pieces of known art and is considered one of the most successful artists of all time. Assemblage, collage, mixed media, and the use of artist crayons are all credited to Picasso as techniques he popularized, co-developed, or helped invent. Clearly Picasso pushed the envelope, challenged artistic boundaries, and opened the door for many artists in the future. He lived a long, prolific life. His net worth in today’s currency would be $1.3 billion.

But he was a jerk. Very few people had nice things to say about his character. His granddaughter wrote a book all about how terrible he was. He was most likely a narcissist, definitely a womanizer, and a violent, non-empathetic, unkind, tortured soul. He used and abused women, often having flings and relationships with underaged girls, and did not keep friends.

Picasso was responsible for numerous broken hearts, devastations, betrayals, and losses. Virtually not one soul remembered him as kind, gracious, longsuffering, patient, generous, or loving. Only self-serving, manipulative, and controlling.

Is all of this collateral damage for whatever boundaries he moved in the arts? Did all of these women suffer for the sake of cubism or oil pastels? Could Picasso have achieved the success he did while still being a good, decent person? Or do only twisted souls have the temperament and audacity to challenge artistic norms? Do only the mentally ill have the license to be a name remembered in history?

The Forbidden Question

A young man looks at Picasso's artwork in a museum

The age-old question is, “Do we separate the man from his art?” Is what we create separate from ourselves or a part of ourselves? Should the character of the artist be considered, or only what they produce? Are we human beings or human doers?

I recently put out a reel facetiously giving Picasso advice—telling him that if he weren’t such a creep, he might have made even better art. I hypothesized that maybe his twisted and somewhat hideous portraits might have still achieved breakthrough in the arts but possibly could have been beautiful instead of so beastly, ill-formed, and cold.

What if the genius gifts of Picasso remained intact? What if his drive and perseverance held, but he was a good loving father, a devoted husband and valiant friend? If he inspired through kindness, generosity, and love, what could his art have looked like?

Many who commented on my reel were horrified that I could dare such a question. They told me I must separate the man from his work. They said only someone who suffered from mental illness and struggled with temper could have the capacity to push the envelope the way that Picasso did. That I was presumptuous for suggesting the contrary. He was a genius, and all geniuses are deranged! It’s the price we must pay for the gifts they leave.

But this is not truth. The man and his work are inseparable. The creation is the extension of the creator. Every utterance is a mirror of the soul. All of our pain and our overcoming are embedded in every brushstroke. Every past wound and small will towards forgiveness is recorded in our work. Our wonderments, our questions, our statements, and our findings are visible in our art. We create from inner need and desire. Our taste and choice are reflections of our life experiences. Our artistic agency is evident in how we lay down paint.

Nothing about our artwork can be separate from our being, our character, our essence.

Art and the Inner Life

A couple looks at Picasso's artwork in a museum

What we create originates from our spirit and filters through our soul. I would even argue that there is no part of what we create that is separate from ourselves. The man and his work are one. This is why our healing and wholeness is so crucial. This is why forgiveness, letting go, and beholding love are vital. This is why creating is so spiritual and transcendent.

If only a deranged and tortured soul can break through the norms and open up new pathways of art, then it is darkness that creates these movements and new modern art. Is this why they are vacant of Beauty? Is this why our architecture and homes have become do drab and dull?

Even more, we should endeavor to create art from a place of humility and openness to the Divine source of beauty. If the creations we want to leave on this earth open portals of freedom, liberty, safety, comfort, peace, joy, and love, we must be the man or woman who esteems such things. We must be people who abide in love, endeavor to reach the valor of forgiveness, and walk in integrity at all costs.

An Artist's Legacy

A palette full of oil paint reflects light from a nearby window

We aren’t going to be perfect—not even close. We will lose our temper, make mistakes, slip back into feeling like a victim, and be short-tempered. But only for moments. This is human. But certainly we can do better than Picasso. We can own our mistakes and make amends. We can admit fault and reach our hearts for reconciliation. We can have short memories when others do us wrong. We can try to see the best in others and operate from faith, not fear.

Our art will be our legacy, but not in the way we’ve been taught to believe. It will not only testify to our talent, innovation, or productivity. It will testify to who we were. To what we loved. To what we forgave or what we refused to heal.

History does not only remember brushstrokes. It remembers the spirit behind them. And while the world may excuse cruelty in the name of genius, brokenness is not required for birthing beauty. Darkness does not get the final say on creativity.

We are not called to be tormented icons. We are called to be whole humans who create from truth, humility, courage, and love. And if our work opens doors, shapes culture, or moves hearts, let it not be because we stayed stuck in a path of darkness, but because we dared to walk in the light.

Share your thoughts in the comments below!


47 comments


  • Lois Miller

    I’d like my art to show,… a child of the God of Israel, me, painted this painting in hope that you would be drawn to His Light and Love that He has to offer you.


  • Sheralyn Shadle

    I find this question about Pablo Picasso fascinating. When I taught 4th and 5th graders, I introduced Picasso in a very simple way, by showing them a traditional, tender portrait of his mother alongside portraits of other women. Even with very little background information, my students noticed a striking difference. They spoke about warmth, care, and love in the portrait of his mother, and tension or even contempt in the others visible through nothing more than brushstrokes, color, and distortion. Their observations stayed with me. It made me more aware of my own work and the quiet power carried in each mark, and it reinforced my desire to create paintings that intentionally evoke love, joy, and a sense of peace.


  • Miriam Coplon

    Artistic genius combined with narcissism and immorality may produce timeless works of art that both illuminate and darken the inescapable plight of being human. To create art that effects people at all is miraculous and wonderful especially if that effect is uplifting. But to diminish humanity by imparting anger, targeted disdain or even revenge is to misuse one’s talents for a selfish end and often to justify immoral behavior. That type of art is more of a curiosity than a masterpiece because it is born mainly out of arrogance. Picasso is not alone in this seemingly inherent contradiction that a man can be blessed with a brilliant talent and yet behave like a savage beast. It is a disquieting truth that cannot in the end be ignored.


  • Liz

    Thanks for this Elli. I agree. If we look at a piece of art we can make judgement of it on its own merit – we may connect with it or not and like it or not. It may show great innovation or not and mastery of skill or not. But the minute we understand the artist story and mindset that created the work that can change our perception of it. An artwork we felt we connected with can suddenly become repulsive, eg if we knew the subjects were abused in some way or the art was the outpourings of a deviant sick mind.
    It is important to say what you have said. It’s the truth but few are brave enough to say it.
    I found your article helpful. I have been shy to put myself out there. I have preferred to just show my paintings. But I see the importance of explaining the story behind the art.


  • Pascale

    Hi, I totally agree with your post and I love your questions! Below, I have an answer to at least two from an art historian’s perspective.

    Also, Perhaps at every Picasso retrospective of his Portraits there could be a brochure titled: Picasso‘s Distorted Genius and The Women who Paid The Price. List all the names of the countless women he left in his wake of destruction.

    In a documentary on YouTube titled People Who Change The World – the art historian Will Payne describes some of Picasso‘s best works (in his twilight years) came from a platonic relationship based on respect and admiration, referring to a 17 year old model, (Lydia Corbett) aka Sylvette. Picasso‘s portraits of her depicted, innocence and purity. The art historian, Payne, said Picasso was captivated by her beauty and presence. They struck up a friendship and Sylvette began modeling for him. He loved her ponytail and created over 60 works, inspired by it. The Ponytail series influenced women across France including Brigitte Bardot to incorporate the ponytail in their hairstyles.

    In later years Sylvette (Lydia Corbett) describes Picasso fondly, and as a blessing that opened many doors for her. She is a successful artist and Potter in England.

    The Art historian Payne clearly highlights at the end of the documentary what a horrible person Picasso was to the women in his life. He concluded: The man and the art are intertwined, and we must acknowledge the darkness and cruelty.


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