I Exposed the Truth About Picasso—I Didn't Expect This Reaction

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A portrait of young Pablo Picasso

Pablo Picasso died at 91 on April 8th, 1973—25 days before I was born. He created more than 50,000 pieces of known art and is considered one of the most successful artists of all time. Assemblage, collage, mixed media, and the use of artist crayons are all credited to Picasso as techniques he popularized, co-developed, or helped invent. Clearly Picasso pushed the envelope, challenged artistic boundaries, and opened the door for many artists in the future. He lived a long, prolific life. His net worth in today’s currency would be $1.3 billion.

But he was a jerk. Very few people had nice things to say about his character. His granddaughter wrote a book all about how terrible he was. He was most likely a narcissist, definitely a womanizer, and a violent, non-empathetic, unkind, tortured soul. He used and abused women, often having flings and relationships with underaged girls, and did not keep friends.

Picasso was responsible for numerous broken hearts, devastations, betrayals, and losses. Virtually not one soul remembered him as kind, gracious, longsuffering, patient, generous, or loving. Only self-serving, manipulative, and controlling.

Is all of this collateral damage for whatever boundaries he moved in the arts? Did all of these women suffer for the sake of cubism or oil pastels? Could Picasso have achieved the success he did while still being a good, decent person? Or do only twisted souls have the temperament and audacity to challenge artistic norms? Do only the mentally ill have the license to be a name remembered in history?

The Forbidden Question

A young man looks at Picasso's artwork in a museum

The age-old question is, “Do we separate the man from his art?” Is what we create separate from ourselves or a part of ourselves? Should the character of the artist be considered, or only what they produce? Are we human beings or human doers?

I recently put out a reel facetiously giving Picasso advice—telling him that if he weren’t such a creep, he might have made even better art. I hypothesized that maybe his twisted and somewhat hideous portraits might have still achieved breakthrough in the arts but possibly could have been beautiful instead of so beastly, ill-formed, and cold.

What if the genius gifts of Picasso remained intact? What if his drive and perseverance held, but he was a good loving father, a devoted husband and valiant friend? If he inspired through kindness, generosity, and love, what could his art have looked like?

Many who commented on my reel were horrified that I could dare such a question. They told me I must separate the man from his work. They said only someone who suffered from mental illness and struggled with temper could have the capacity to push the envelope the way that Picasso did. That I was presumptuous for suggesting the contrary. He was a genius, and all geniuses are deranged! It’s the price we must pay for the gifts they leave.

But this is not truth. The man and his work are inseparable. The creation is the extension of the creator. Every utterance is a mirror of the soul. All of our pain and our overcoming are embedded in every brushstroke. Every past wound and small will towards forgiveness is recorded in our work. Our wonderments, our questions, our statements, and our findings are visible in our art. We create from inner need and desire. Our taste and choice are reflections of our life experiences. Our artistic agency is evident in how we lay down paint.

Nothing about our artwork can be separate from our being, our character, our essence.

Art and the Inner Life

A couple looks at Picasso's artwork in a museum

What we create originates from our spirit and filters through our soul. I would even argue that there is no part of what we create that is separate from ourselves. The man and his work are one. This is why our healing and wholeness is so crucial. This is why forgiveness, letting go, and beholding love are vital. This is why creating is so spiritual and transcendent.

If only a deranged and tortured soul can break through the norms and open up new pathways of art, then it is darkness that creates these movements and new modern art. Is this why they are vacant of Beauty? Is this why our architecture and homes have become do drab and dull?

Even more, we should endeavor to create art from a place of humility and openness to the Divine source of beauty. If the creations we want to leave on this earth open portals of freedom, liberty, safety, comfort, peace, joy, and love, we must be the man or woman who esteems such things. We must be people who abide in love, endeavor to reach the valor of forgiveness, and walk in integrity at all costs.

An Artist's Legacy

A palette full of oil paint reflects light from a nearby window

We aren’t going to be perfect—not even close. We will lose our temper, make mistakes, slip back into feeling like a victim, and be short-tempered. But only for moments. This is human. But certainly we can do better than Picasso. We can own our mistakes and make amends. We can admit fault and reach our hearts for reconciliation. We can have short memories when others do us wrong. We can try to see the best in others and operate from faith, not fear.

Our art will be our legacy, but not in the way we’ve been taught to believe. It will not only testify to our talent, innovation, or productivity. It will testify to who we were. To what we loved. To what we forgave or what we refused to heal.

History does not only remember brushstrokes. It remembers the spirit behind them. And while the world may excuse cruelty in the name of genius, brokenness is not required for birthing beauty. Darkness does not get the final say on creativity.

We are not called to be tormented icons. We are called to be whole humans who create from truth, humility, courage, and love. And if our work opens doors, shapes culture, or moves hearts, let it not be because we stayed stuck in a path of darkness, but because we dared to walk in the light.

Share your thoughts in the comments below!


39 comments


  • Debbie Hunt

    Thank you for speaking up! I never understood Picasso’s work. I often found it terrifying and (in my opinion) overrated. My hope is that my work reflects a deep respect for the earth and its gifts. Through it, I want viewers to reconnect with nature and sense their place within a greater whole.
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    Elli Milan Art replied:
    That’s a beautiful purpose!


  • Julie Wolk

    I’m with you. I completely call BS on the idea that we can excuse Picasso’s behavior because of his “genius.” I’m so very tired of the trope of the “tortured artist” – that “true” artists are suffering, depressed or mentally unhinged. I know my talent is not “genius”…but (for me) my art practice is about my interaction with the canvas, AND it is the art of how I use my days to create something soul-full that helps people connect with the beauty, complexity and resonance within their own humanity.


  • Rebekah Wagster

    Thank you for this beautifully written piece concerning what is in us.
    As a follower of Jesus Christ,I believe we are to surrender our human ways and thoughts and cooperate with the Holy Spirit that lives within each one that received him. Since the Divine lives in us, then his work can come out of us. Therefore beauty would be expressed. Thank you once again for teaching truth.!


  • Christine

    This is such a courageous and necessary reflection. Thank you for daring to ask the question so many are afraid to touch.
    I’ve often felt this quiet grief when looking at Picasso’s work not because it lacks impact or innovation, but because it feels sealed off from tenderness. Your observation names something I’ve sensed but never quite articulated: what might have been possible if the same genius had flowed through a healed, integrated heart
    The idea that torment is a prerequisite for greatness has been romanticized for far too long. It’s a convenient myth one that excuses cruelty and elevates brokenness as if love somehow dulls creativity. But why should wholeness be the enemy of innovation? Why do we assume light has less depth than darkness?
    I deeply agree that the artist and the work are inseparable. Art is not manufactured in a vacuum; it is breathed out from the inner life. Every choice, every distortion, every omission carries the fingerprint of the soul behind it. When we create, we reveal not just what we see, but who we are becoming.
    Your question doesn’t diminish Picasso’s contribution; it expands the conversation. It invites us to imagine a world where brilliance and kindness coexist, where boundary-pushing does not require collateral damage, and where beauty is not stripped of compassion to be considered “serious.”
    What you’ve written feels like an invitation not to moral perfection, but to responsibility. To tend our inner lives with the same devotion we give our craft. To believe that healing doesn’t weaken art, but deepens it. And to trust that love, humility, and integrity are not creatively limiting forces, but generative ones.
    I hope more artists sit with this. Not defensively but honestly. Because legacy is not just what we leave on walls, but what we leave in people. And I, for one, want my work to carry the scent of love, not just the mark of skill.
    Thank you for speaking this out loud. 🥰
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    Elli Milan Art replied:
    Wow! Christine this is so deep and articulate. Thank you for this valuable addition to the conversation. I love everything you said!


  • Irmi

    I do want to leave a legacy of beauty, courage and love to my family and the world.
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    Elli Milan Art replied:
    Yes!


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